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Abuja dating guide advises how to pick up Nigerian girls and how to hookup with local women in Abuja. Travel, enjoy and have fun with hot single girls and you might even meet the love of your life. Read more on how to date Nigerian women, where to find sex and how to get laid in Abuja, Nigeria.

A view of Abuja

Abuja is the capital city of Nigeria. A lot of political dignitaries including the President of the country live in Abuja. Because of this, the city is very developed when it comes to infrastructure and lifestyle. The city is sometimes called "The Buj".

Abuja Top 10 Overview:

Chance of picking up girls: 4.25 / 5

Picking up at daytime: 4 / 5

Picking up at nighttime: 4.5 / 5

Looks of girls: 4.5 / 5

Attitude of girls: 4 / 5

Nightlife in general: 3 / 5

Locals' English level: 4.5 / 5

Moving around the city: 4 / 5

Budget per day: US$30 - $500

Accommodation: US$10 - $600

Girls in Abuja

A group of local women at the Marshoria Arena, Abuja

Abuja is the capital city of Nigeria, meaning a lot of money is in circulation around town. Because of this, a lot of girls in Abuja are wealthy. You will find a lot of girls who are used for living life at high standards. Of course, not all girls in Abuja are wealthy, there is a greater percentage of girls that belong to the middle or lower class. Depending on a girl's wealth, she might or might not be impressed by your money.

The average girl in Abuja (middle class and high class) can speak very good English.

Most girls living in Abuja are Nigerian in origin. Though, you can also meet girls who are from other countries in Abuja. These countries can be within and beyond Africa. Due to the reputation and development level of Abuja city, there are quite a number of foreigners who stay in Abuja on a temporary or permanent basis.

RatingLooks Looks of girls: 4.5 / 5

There a are a lot of good looking girls in Abuja. When you consider the high standard of living in some parts of Abuja, you realize that a lot of people living in Abuja are rich. And most times, rich people look good because they can take care themselves.

When it comes to body structure, Abuja girls have very hot bodies, with most girls having either a big ass or big boobs. This is common among African girls.

Use of makeup and hair wigs are common in Nigerian cities, including Abuja.

RatingAttitude Attitude of girls: 4 / 5

If you give a girl a good first impression, she is likely to be receptive and nice when you engage in a conversation with her. It is uncommon for a girl to be intentionally ill mannered to a person for no reason in particular. So most times, the attitudes of girls in Abuja is quite good.

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How to Pick Up Girls

RatingPickup Chance of picking up: 4.25 / 5

Generally, the chance of picking up a girl depends on the first impression you give her. This means that your looks, your speech, and the way you carry yourself have to be appealing. If a girl is mainly after money, then your chance of picking her up depends on how rich you look at the time when you approach her. Most people assume that foreigners are rich since traveling to another country is not usually something that poor people do. So generally, the chance of picking up girls as a foreigner is quite high.

Tips for Daytime

Picking up at daytime can be a mixed experience. Hang around the type of places mentioned in the following sections and you will be good to go. Make sure you are confident while approaching, be charming and well dressed. Spend a little cash and you are good to go.

RatingDaytime Chance of picking up at daytime: 4 / 5

Best Places to Meet Girls

If you want to meet girls during the day, there are a number of places that are ideal for doing so in Abuja:

  • Jabi Lake Mall
Address: Jabi District, Bala Sokoto Way, Jabi, Abuja.
The Jabi Lake Mall has numerous shops and stores and is popular for having a lot of people coming over to mingle and make new friends. Among its attractive features include; local and continental restaurants (such as the Ancient Flavors Continental Restaurants and Grills), clothing stores belonging to popular clothing stores, and electronic stores, among many others.
The Mall also has a cinema (Silverbird Cinema) which is popular for showing high quality movies, local and international.
The Mall is open from 9am to 9pm daily.
Jabi Park is a garden which is situated close to the mall. The Park has a serene environment where you can have a fun time relaxing, eating and even riding horses.
Jabi Lake
  • Millennium Park
Address: Three Arms Zone, Asokoro, Abuja.
The Millennium Park is the largest public park in Abuja and one of the most significant centers of attraction in the capital city. Its features include an expertly designed walkway which is flanked on both sides by wide expanses of greenery. The park has a series of fountains where people can get refreshed. There is also a small river that runs through the park, splitting it into two major parts. The best period for meeting people at the part is usually weekends or days of public festivities. There is no fee charged for entering into the park.
Opening Hours: 6am to 6pm daily
Millennium Park
  • Ceddi Plaza Abuja
Address: 264 Tafawa Balewa Way, Central Business District
Ceddi Plaza has 55 specialty shops, offices & service providers consisting of movie theaters, a bookstore, champagne lounge, the Atrium @ Ceddi Plaza, restaurants, cafes, fashion boutiques, shoes, accessories, home interior design stores, furnishings, health & beauty salons, gift shops, telephones, banking and ATMs, dry cleaning services, a dental office, pharmacy, photo studio, children's entertainment, events hall and much more.
It's one of the shopping malls in Abuja where you can find girls shopping during the day.
The Mall is open daily from 8am to 11pm, except on Sunday from 11am to 11pm.
Ceddi Plaza is one of the shopping malls in the Abuja Central Area. You can meet local girls here.

There are many other places in Abuja such as The Trukadero Place, where you can have fun moments bowling and meet up with bowling enthusiasts.

Tips for Nighttime

The best way to score girls during the night is to hit the most happening places. Go to all the bars and nightclubs. Buy her a lot of drinks and you will have a girl in bed in no time.

RatingNighttime Chance of hooking up at nighttime: 4.5 / 5

Best Nightclubs to Meet Girls

  • The Bank
Address: 80, Aminu Kano crescent, Wuse 2, Abuja.
The Bank is a high profile luxury lounge, where you can come to have fun at night. It is a place renowned for bringing people together to socialize. It has also been host to notable celebrities in the country. There is also a section reserved for VIP and it is located upstairs. The Bank is known to be a safe place as there are a lot of security personnel present to ensure the safety of customers.
At The Bank, you can get quite a number of services while relaxing. There is a café which runs 24/7. At the café, you can get a cup of coffee, which known for its high quality taste. Also, delicious meals (local and international) are served at the café. Friday and Saturday nights are the time for dancing, since those are the days when the nightclub is opened.

Other nightclubs include; House of Cubana, Safari Note Club, Aqua Groove, and The Night Mirage.

RatingLooks Nightlife in general: 3 / 5

The nightlife is pretty great with some amazing bars and nightclubs. You will have a great time here.

Mature Ladies and Cougars

The chances of meeting up with mature ladies are quite lower than meeting up with younger ladies. However, it is still very possible to meet up with mature ladies who are interested in having long term or short term relationships or just sexual adventures. A lot of of these mature ladies are wealthy (sugar mummy). Asides meeting them physically, you can meet older ladies on dating websites such as sugarlinks and sugarmummyapp.


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Top Dating Tips

When trying to decide the best place to take a girl for a date, you should ask her where she might want to go. When hanging out with a girl, she has to feel comfortable in whatever environment you are. Some options include going to a cinema to watch movies.

The kind of conversation that a girl likes to have depends on the girl, but there are some general lines of conversation that most girls would get involved in. Most girls like talking about their hobbies, their interests, since things that someone finds interesting are easy to talk about. Also, talking about future plans is something girls indulge in. The idea of visualizing yourself as someone better in the future is always exciting. You can also talk about major events that were witnessed or heard about by either you or the girl in question.

When it comes to talking about past dates, the best course of action is to let the girl talk about hers. When a guy talks about his exes (especially those he never got over) with another lady, it is not really seen as a good sign. If it seems like you are still into your ex, then the present lady will definitely not be interested in you. So, it is best to let the lady do most of the talking.

Relationships and Love

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Online Dating

Online dating sites are not very prevalent in Nigeria, but there are still a number of people who engage in online dating. The most used conventional online dating platforms are Tinder and Badoo.

Instead of using conventional dating websites, most Nigerians use general social media apps. Most popular among these apps are Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. These apps are excellent ways to meet girls. However, on these social media platforms you have to be convincing, because a lot of Nigerian con men and scammers pretend to be foreigners on social media. So, some girls might think you are just another scammer who is trying to make money off unsuspecting victims.

There are no ladyboys in Nigeria that can be found on dating sites, because being gay or transsexual is illegal in the country.

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What Kind of Guys Have the Best Chances

When it comes to picking up girls in Abuja, rich guys are at an advantage, since girls are attracted to wealth. If you want you show off your wealth, it is best to do it in exotic nightclubs by buying expensive drinks. Girls notice guys that pay for expensive drinks and it will be easier for them to respond to you if you approach them. Some girls might even walk up to you and introduce themselves.

Some girls who are shy might not want to be seen with a foreigner during the day, especially if he is white. This is because by reputation, most girls that hang around foreigners are gold diggers, what we call "runs girls". However, girls who are looking for fun are easily impressed by foreigners and would want to be seen with them because they will attract more attention. Black American men have the greatest chances, then White men, then Hispanic men, then Asians.

Risks while Gaming

If you are going to have a one night stand with a regular girl or sleep with a sex worker, you should be careful because some girls are known to secretly give sleeping drugs to men that they have sex with, and when the men are asleep, they steal their expensive possessions. Most girls who do this are sex workers but regular girls can also do this. If you intend to sleep with a sex worker, make sure that she is from a reputable organization such as massage centers and not just a random sex worker on the streets. Though, not all sex workers on the streets engage in such activities, it is best to be safe.

Some girls who go out to parties and nightclubs might just want to have fun on their own. So sometimes, they bring friends along to act as cockblockers. A lot of times, girls in groups are not as accommodating as girls who are alone. If a girl comes around with friends, it is best to approach her with your own friends, so that your friends can distract hers.

When you begin to get involved with a girl, you should try to find out if the girl has a boyfriend or not, to avoid any risk of having to face a jealous boyfriend. Sometimes girl who has a boyfriend might lie that she is single, in order to keep you attracted to her. This happens especially if she feels that her boyfriend is not rich enough to take care of her and she sees you as someone wealthy. Also, she might just be interested in getting down with a foreigner. Even if a girl claims to be single, you can ask a local who knows a lot about girls in a particular social circle. They might provide some helpful information about the girl of interest.

If you are getting involved with a girl, that is, going on regular dates with her, the question of her family might come into play. Most families who belong to the higher class do not really mind if their daughter or sister is getting involved with a foreigner, since they themselves are used to relating with foreigners.

Also, some families of girls who belong to the lower class might not mind too. They might see it as a good thing that their daughter or sister is getting involved with a rich foreigner, especially if you send money and/or gifts to members of her family, particular her parents and siblings. This is not the case for everyone though. There are Nigerians who are traditionalists, and who believe in preserving the African culture. Families who fall into this category might not support you having a relationship with the lady of interest, especially if she is close to marriage age.

How to Get Laid as Soon as Possible

The surest way to get laid instantly is by patronizing sex workers. Sex workers in Abuja are mostly called "runs girls". There are several locations where runs girls are found and they charge different prices.

To get laid quickly with regular girls in Lagos is more challenging but still possible. Your best options are using online dating apps and visiting the nightclubs.

Gold Diggers and Sugar Babies

Abuja is full of hot girls looking for a mutually beneficial hookup with travellers. There are lots of girls who don’t charge by the hour but who will do anything for a guy who is willing to help them pay their bills. If you are looking for a more personal and less transactional alternative to escorts, a good place to find these sexy open-minded girls in Abuja is SecretBenefits.

Gold diggers are quite common in Abuja. A lot of girls are interested in having short term or long term sexual relationship with wealthy men in order to get mostly financial benefits. These girls are found on the university campuses in Abuja and in nightclubs.


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Swinger Clubs and Naturism

Swinger clubs in Abuja are not common, because most Nigerians are not really enthusiastic about group sex. Most swinging parties are usually private parties. Also, there are no nudist beaches in Abuja.

However, if you are looking for nudism, there are a number of strip clubs you can visit such as the Golden Ice Lounge and Xtacy.

Costs of Living

CostsDay Single traveler’s budget per day: US$30 - $500

Single traveler’s budget per day will be between $30-$500.

CostsAccommodation Accommodation per night: US$10 - $600

Accommodation per night is around $10-$600.

CostsBeerBottle Beer in a grocery shop: US$0.82 - $4.11

Beer in a grocery shop will be between $0.82 - $4.11

CostsBeerBar Beer in a bar or restaurant: US$1.37 - $4.11

Beer in a bar or restaurant can cost anywhere around $1.37 - $4.11.

CostsMeal Meal in a restaurant: US$1.37 - $5.48

Meal in a restaurant will be between $1.37 - $5.48.


If you would be staying in Abuja for a short while, it would be best to take up accommodation in a hotel. Hotel prices in Abuja are dependent on the standard of the hotel and its location. On the average, 3 star hotels cost about $47 per night and 5 star hotels cost about $133. There are cheaper hotels which can go for as low as $10 per night but these hotels usually have low standards of services, and they might not be safe to stay in. Also, if you are looking for luxury, there are some high end hotels (such as the Transcorp Hilton Hotel) which can go for as high as $1500 per night for Executive or Presidential suites.

On the airbnb website, there are a lot of options when it comes to getting accommodation in Abuja. Apart from hotel reservations, you can also book apartments on a pay per night basis.

The NICON Luxury hotel is located in Area 11. Rooms per night are $100+.

How to Get There and Move Around

By air:

Abuja is home to the Nnamdi Azikiwe Airport, which is the second busiest airport in Nigeria, after the Murtala Muhammed Airport in Lagos. The Nnamdi Azikiwe Airport is host to local and international flights. Some of the most notable airlines that offer international flights to the airport are Egypt Air, Air France, Emirates, Ethiopian Airlines, Lufthansa, Turkish Airlines, and British Airways. Also, there are official green colored airport taxis attached to the airport. The drivers of these taxis know the major hotels closest to the airport.

By bus:

The public transport system in Abuja does not include buses, but taxis instead.

By car:

When it comes to car transportation, there are several options. There is the option of general public taxis which move along specific major routes (taxi sharing is common in Nigeria). You can also charter these taxis for yourself alone, even though the cost of chartering is quite high. There is also the option of Uber and Taxify in Abuja. Once you download the mobile app, you will be able to find and contact the driver nearest to you. The government has certain rules which do not make driving very straightforward for a tourist. However, you can hire both a car and a driver. Car hires can be done on online platforms like mudita and sixt. Driver hires can be done on online platforms like driversng and wowcity.

Outer Northern Expressway, ONEX (Maitama Avenue intersection)

By train:

There is a railway system that moves within Abuja, but it is not very reliable, since the trains are quite slow. Also, there is a train route from Abuja to neighboring Kaduna State.

By boat:

Abuja is located at the center of the country, with no major water transportation routes passing through the city. However, there are other water related activities that could be carried out in Abuja. Maxtivity is a company which organizes speed boat and pedal boat rides. Their office is situated at the Jabi Lake Mall. The water rides are carried out on the Jabi Lake. Each pedal boat ride takes three people at a time while a speed boat ride takes ten people at a time. The minimum cost for a ride starts from N4500 ($12.33), depending on the type of ride and the time the ride is taken. The hours of operation are from 10am to 8pm daily.


It is quite easy for a foreigner, especially out of Africa to get a visa into Nigeria. If you are coming to Abuja for a short period of time - maybe a vacation - it is best to apply for a tourist visa. Applications can be made on the home page of Nigeria Immigration Portal. The requirements for a tourist visa are written below:

1. Passport valid for at least 6 months

2. Completed visa application form

3. Two recent passport size photographs

4. A Letter of Invitation from a company/host in Nigeria accepting immigration responsibility

5. Visitors/Tourists are required to show evidence of sufficient funds

6. Nigeria Immigration Service Visa Payment Receipt and Visa Acknowledgement Receipt

Most times, it is easier to employ the services of travel agencies in your country. They would handle most application, flight and accommodation processes for a fee.

Digital Nomads and Remote Work

Being the capital city, Abuja has a good internet connectivity and a lot of places to relax while working. This makes it quite a productive place to be for a digital nomad.

Internet and Mobile Operators

There are four main network providers in Nigeria (MTN, Airtel, 9mobile and Globacom), all of which are fast in most parts of Abuja with 4G connectivity available. There are also several WiFi router companies such as Spectranet, SWIFT Networks Limited, SMILE Communications Nigeria and IPNX Nigeria. They also offer 4G connectivity in most parts of Abuja. These different networks offer a wide range of data plans. Commonly used plans range from $7 - $14 for 10GB. When it comes to making phone calls, airtime of N100 lasts for about 15 minutes for most of these telecommunication companies.

Gambling and Casinos

Generally, casinos are not legal in Nigeria, but there are a few casinos that have a license to operate. Out of all functioning casinos in Abuja, there is one casino that meets up up with world standards. That is the casino in the Transcorp Hilton Hotel. The casino has 9 gaming tables and 40 gaming machines.

Another form of gambling in Nigeria is sports betting. There are numerous indigenous sports betting sites, most of which offer a maximum winnable amount of N40 million ($110,162). Nigerians mostly bet on football matches. The betting platforms have offices where people go to place bets, but it is more convenient to carry out betting online on betting websites. Some of the platforms include: bet9ja, nairabet, betking, betway, 360bet, surebet247, merrybet, and supabet.

Weed and Drugs

Marijuana and hard drugs are illegal in Nigeria, with prison sentences attached to the crime of possession of such drugs. Because of this, the sale and consumption of drugs is mainly an underground business. You should think twice before buying drugs that is the risk worth it. As a foreigner, the best course of action is to ask someone (a local who is familiar with the terrain) to get some for you.

However, if you want to go into the field to get drugs by yourself, there are some particular locations where you could go to.

City Park in Wuse II, is one such spot. There are guys (and sometimes girls) who hang around on the streets of the park and within restaurants in the park. Usually, a wrap of weed is sold for N500 ($1.37).

Another location is Banex Junction, where a lot of drug sellers pose as sellers of regular household items. Drugs sold in most locations include weed, cocaine and ketamine.

However, these vendors do not always sell to anyone who asks, especially if you are not a known customer. That is why it is best to go through a local who already knows how to go about the whole purchase of drugs.

If you do not want to buy hard drugs from vendors, there are some regular pharmaceutical drugs that you can take to get high. They include Codeine, Tramadol and Refnol. They are sold in most pharmacies. If you want to buy these drugs, you should buy them from a pharmacy that is being managed by a young guy because they most likely would not ask for a doctor's prescription note.

Health, Fitness, Gyms and Massage

Health: There are several world class hospitals in Abuja, due to its high level of infrastructural development. Usually, private hospitals are more costly in health care than government owned hospitals. In case of health care emergencies, locals are readily available to give directions to a hospital.

Fitness and Gyms: When it comes to gyms and fitness centers, your hotel accommodation would mostly have a gym, if it is a quality hotel. If not, you can always ask around for quality gyms or check Google maps for directions to a gym close to you.

Massage: There are hundreds of quality massage centers in Abuja. Some expensive hotels have massages attached to the services that their guests receive. You can also check Google maps for the closest massage centers. Some notable centers include; Oasis Stay-fit Gym and Spa, Topaz House of Beauty, and ElShamman Beauty and Body Care.

STDs and HIV

STDs are definitely present in every major city you go to. To prevent contacting STDs, NEVER have sex without using a condom, especially if the lady is a sex worker.

Some STDs are curable while others are not. Drugs for curable STDs might be found in pharmacies, but it is best to go to a hospital first in order to be properly examined and given the right drug prescription.

Stay Safe

Abuja tends to be a sharp contrast against the background of the rest of Nigeria. While car hijackings and armed robbery are high in Lagos, and kidnapping of foreign oil workers is prevalent in the Niger delta, Abuja in sharp contrast, is one of the safest metropolitan cities on the continent.

General security measures like elsewhere in the world should be observed. Like anywhere else in the world, it's always a good idea to have company when exploring unfamiliar places. If you're driving, observe simple measures like keeping your car door locked when parked to avoid opportunistic crime. Armed robbery at gun point is the most prevalent form of crime. A calm disposition and full cooperation with robbers is the best line of action in the unlikely event that you are the victim of a robbery.

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